Top self-care strategy to stop the cycle of physical or verbal abuse in your partnership
Today, you’re going to hear how the cycle of spousal abuse can be stopped by either the perpetrator or the victim. Often you see spousal and partner abuse victims go back over and over again to their unhealthy situations. If you are in this situation, you don’t realize you have a lot of power. Somewhere along the line, you got disempowered.
This story is about an abused woman that was asking. “When is it going to stop?” in a self-help meeting. The story was difficult for me to hear, but the answer that came out of my own experiences surprised me and surprised the rest of the people in the room.
You have more power than you think. You have the power to create your own life and do it in a way that feels good to you. Listen in to this simple mind shift and how this woman (and I) finally solved the question of the abuse stopped.
Standout Quotes:
- “You each have 100% responsibility for the course of any relationship.”
- “I just got up and I left. And I said I'm not going to listen to it anymore.”
- “When someone claims to be the victim, they're usually the victimizer.”
- “You can't control the situation; you can't control the behavior of the other person.”
- “The loss of the relationship is of little consequence compared to the loss of my health and happiness.”
- “Doing anything by willpower is really difficult.”
Key Takeaways:
- Gretta shares a terrifying story about how her 30-year-old lover Carl, whom she had shared a home, had assaulted her. Anastasia and the rest of the group listened, transfixed as she narrated her long story, which was about an on-again, off-again romance with highs and lows. It sounded like something out of a movie, but it was true.
- Gretta experienced being beaten three times, but each time she has been convinced to return. The fourth time, though, she decided to keep as far away from him as possible.
- Anastasia would attempt to be kind and do everything her ex desired. But it was never enough because he was always looking for an excuse to blame Anastasia. She was the one who was present, and he felt compelled to vent his frustrations on her.
- Anastasia felt compelled to speak up and share her experiences for others to be inspired by her story and stand up for themselves. It is hard to do anything by willpower, and you might stay off course in weak points.
Episode Timeline:
[1:03] Grettas’s Story
[5:19] Why Can’t the Other Person Stop being Abusive
[7:06] Being the Victim
[7:58] Anastasia Discovered these 2 Things
[9:19] Get your Own Free Relationship Healing
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